I have decided that when making quilts (even baby ones) I need to give them to someone who appreciates what they have been given. Along with the baseball themed baby quilt and diaper bag (their theme was sports for the little boy to come) I included a baby fabric book that I found the panels at the quilt shop. Since our financial situtation is not the best. As everyone knows good fabric is not inexpensive. However, this little fabric panel for the book was only $7.00. The baby shower was yesterday and I was a bit hurt as the baby quilt was taken out of the package not opened and shoved back into the bag. Hopefully, sometime it will be used or appreciated.
Perhaps in all the excitement of the day, they didn't feel they had time to really look at all their gifts. I'm sure they will appreciate your effort and generosity. Thanks for sending your address. I have some lovely surprises for your parcel. The fabric book is wonderful! Ann :-)
ReplyDeleteHopefully the appreciation will come as they have time to sit and breathe with the day's excitement done. I love the idea of including a fabric book. When my first was born my co-workers threw me a book-themed shower - all the gifts were children's board book or fabric books, and started my son's collection. He's 11 now and appreciates a well-stocked bookshelf (and at the rate he reads, thank goodness for libraries!)-Joanne
ReplyDeleteI am sure that once the excitement of the shower is over and they have a chance to look at everything they will love your quilt.
ReplyDeleteSome people really do not understand the work
and the time ( not to mention love) that goes into handmade items. So try not to feel bad, they may just not get it..... and if they don't then next gift should be store bought. :)
How heartbreaking to have your gift neglected like that. I, too, hope it was just the excitement of the day. After all you went through to make sure the colors and theme were correct, I expected the quilt to be a big hit. But even if mom never really appreciates it, kids have a way of sensing all the love we put into quilts, so I bet you'll see it when the little one is old enough to make that choice.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the encouragement and I will keep in mind store bought for the couple (my stepson and his wife) next time around.
ReplyDeleteI have experienced those same feelings a few times over the years, but most times the recipient has no idea what was involved in the making of a quilt. I'm sure the little one will love the book. I made similar ones for my GS's, and they were washed so many times because of drools, sticky fingers, and yes, even chewing! Little ones love fabric books! ---"Love"
ReplyDeleteI love your fabric book! I hope to do one some day. I have material to do two Christmas ones. I was going to turn the pages into quilt panels but then thought, no just make it a book.
ReplyDeleteWe'll see. As for the shower, sorry to hear it didn't go the way you liked, a real bummer. *hugs* My only guess is they didn't have time right then and there in front of the whole group to appreciate it. I personally don't like showers (baby or bridal) to go too long as an attendee). I bet later they were more appreciative about it (or will be). I try to caution myself as I have seen too many disapointments, not to set up myself for expected reactions. So hard to do. My aunt crocheted a blanket for me. I didnt like the color and it was all rough and I was in High school. I think I gave it to Goodwill. I felt bad having it sit in my closet with the thoughts of NEVER using it. Now I am near 40 and am so bummed I do not have it, especially since it is my Father's only deceased sibling. My middle name came from her, too.
I have a friend that scrap books and she vented to me how angry she was with a reaction she didnt get. She vented at the time and money she spent and how awefule they were for her gift. I felt bad for her, but then felt bad that the recipient had these expectations from the giver. It's a gift, right? I'm just doing my best to try not to do/feel the same.
You have a good policy now, "I need to give them to someone who appreciates what they have been given." - I LOVE IT!
*hugs*
Jackie